1. How did you get started writing erotica?My writing isn’t erotica as such. That’s bodice-ripping fiction. Although at times mine is quite steamy, it’s all real. There have been so many amazing experiences from my years of working in the sex industry that I don’t need to make anything up. I have several friends who know what I do and love to hear tit bits about my fun experiences at work over wine or dinner and they encouraged me to share my stories with a wider audience. Hence Violet Ivy the author came into being.
2. What is the single most annoying thing that makes you want to scream about erotica today?The standard rich, good looking hero and the quirky, shy, bumbling heroine who somehow catches his affections. Ever been out in the real world lately? 50 Shades of Grey is the perfect example. That was just a Mills & Boon with repetitive spanking scenes…yawn! But good for her, she made a fortune out of it.
3. What book are you dying to read this summer?I’ve just finished rereading the Armistead Maupin ‘Tales of the City’ series. This is my third read. I love the unique characters. The tele-series with Laura Linney and Olympia Dukakis was amazing too. Some things never get old. Next I’ve got my Lonely Planet. I’m off to Europe in two weeks. I love my job. The clients pay my expenses and I get to have a working holiday.
4. Favorite ice cream flavor?This is a hard one….butterscotch chips in vanilla…..choc mint….rocky road….the list goes on.
5. Cheese burger or sushi?Time, place and circumstance. Trying to be healthy noon on a Monday sushi. Hungover Sunday morning sushi just isn’t going to cut it is it? Cheeseburger every time.
6. Name three things on your desk right now.Laptop, diary, phone….but also a dildo review I’m commenting on, car keys – I’m just about off to see a client, and big mug of hot chocolate – yum!
7. Plotter or pantster?
I live out of my diary. Once an entry is in there it’s in concrete. I can’t let my clients down or I won’t be successful. However my downtime is my own. I’m always up for wine, dancing, gym, beach, shopping. Life is short!8. What kind of characters do you love to write about?I have met the most amazing people in my travels. My second book ‘Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews’ is where I talk frankly with 21 diverse individuals about their views on sex. A transgender bondage and discipline Mistress, a slave, a gay guy, a bisexual girl who works on phone sex lines, another high class escort, a couple of my clients, a brothel Madam, a street walker and her client, a guy who works in an adult sex shop, a nudist, a guy who’s into trannies…and so forth. Writing that book really expanded my horizons. It will for anyone who reads it too.
9. Open your newest book and tell us what is happening.I’ve just finished writing ‘Cougar’ which is another interview book. Mature ladies (cougars) and their younger gentlemen (cubs) candidly answer questions about their desire to have sex/relationships with age varying partners. I had pigeonholed ideas of both and was right with a couple of them but pleasantly surprised by the myriad responses to my questioning. Some just want to get laid as often as possible by any means, others are truly looking for long term, committed relationships. Very interesting reading indeed. It’s due for release early 2014.
10. What is next for you, writing wise?I’m half way though writing my next book which is a ‘How To’ book. Everything from how to put a condom on without using your hands, how to get out of a bad date, how to have a threesome without one person feeling left out, how to get back out there after a divorce/breakup, how to deal with a stalker to how to do a fisting. A massive range of how to’s from someone who has been exposed to every aspect of sex and fantasy on the face of the planet!
More information:Lucky Girl – How I survived the Sex Industry
By Violet Ivy
Synopsis/Blurb
The intimate autobiography of an international call girl. Scary, funny and bizarre stories recorded for your amusement, edification or simply for interesting dinner conversation.
The sex industry is clouded in mystery. It has to be to some extent or it wouldn’t survive. But in this age of internet porn, buying pubic hair trimmings online and wife swapping parties it’s about time the veils of mystery were taken down.
For moralists, let’s visit the chicken and the egg scenario. Which came first the prostitute or the client? If there were no clients then obviously there would be no sex workers. But what if there weren’t any prostitutes? Would guys wank themselves silly to porn? Harass their post-menopausal wives? Frequent bars trying their luck? Or hassle the secretary and risk being charged with sexual harassment? Would statistics for rape be on the increase? Is prostitution a necessary evil in our society? Don’t mindlessly believe and quote information spoon fed to you by friends, family or the media. Make an educated decision.
Although it was never my intention to get into this industry, I’ve travelled the world, had incredible experiences and bought several properties. I won’t have to rely on the government pension when I retire.
My closest friends are co-workers, madams and clients. Brilliant people who I would never otherwise have had the good fortune to meet. I will never regret my decision to enter this field. It has not always been a bed of roses, but when I compare it to what my life might have been; cleaning job, shitty boss, marriage, perhaps divorce, mortgage, kids, living in the burbs, scraping by to give my kids a better life than I was destined for, I feel that I have been rescued…..thank God.
Money doesn’t make you happy? Tell that to someone thrown out of his house because he can’t make the payments or the mother who can’t afford Christmas presents for her kids again this year. I’ve been poor. Money equals choices. Options of how to travel on this journey we call life. Did I make some mistakes? Sure! But there’s not too much I’d change. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Money gives security. Poverty causes ulcers. Financial hardship can also make you compromise yourself in ways that being a sex worker never will.
This industry eats its young and damages those not strong enough to cope. Every worker has a different personality, head space, upbringing, personal history and therefore experience. This book is a glimpse of mine. I am not advocating anyone join the profession. That is a personal choice.
When I started out I could never have imagined what my life journey would look like or where I would be now. I don’t even know where in the world I will be in twelve months. What I will be doing? Who I might be bonking, caning or smearing with hot wax? Exciting isn’t it? Carpe diem – seize the day. I’m a lucky girl.
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Author bio
Violet Ivy grew up on a small wheat and sheep farm in the outback of Western Australia. A spray of freckles across her nose, pigtails streaming down her back as she swam naked in the local creek to cool off during the endless summers.
Who could have predicted her transformation into one of the world’s most elite, international escorts? The wanton woman satisfying the needs and desires of the most affluent men and women of the globe.
Life was not always easy for Violet. Hers is a rags-to-riches story from the seedy brothels of the mining town Kalgoorlie to attending the Kentucky Derby and the Oscars on the arms of the most influential men on the face of the planet.
Violet continues to work in an industry that can either make or break it’s players. She has had to learn how to adapt and hone her expertise to climb to the top of her game. Based in Melbourne, Australia, where sex work is legal, she travels to far flung places, (if the money’s right), as either a courtesan or a fetish Mistress, fulfilling her clients’ needs and desires. Encouragement from friends and family to share her adventures led her to begin a series of books exposing the realities behind the veil of the oldest profession in the world. She introduces her readers to myriad bizarre, scary and hilarious people and situations she comes across in her travels.
Read what other esteemed authors are saying about Violet Ivy’s Debut novel…
‘From the opening paragraph to the final words I was hooked, no pun intended. Frankly there is no other book like Lucky Girl whether one reaches for Diary of a Call Girl or The Happy Hooker. Well, there is one comparison…the work of Nancy Friday who wrote in a similar fashion. When one writes about bondage and discipline it is necessary to keep in mind the sensibilities of readers who may not understand these matters. For me it was an eye-opener. Lucky Girl gave me an understanding of B&D that now makes complete sense to me. People should read this and understand the life and mind of a sex worker. It becomes obvious very quickly that not all are uneducated drug addicts who can’t hold down a job anywhere else. I look forward to the follow up books. Violet Ivy is a writer, and that is the highest praise any reviewer can give. To possess such talent suggests that Violet Ivy is indeed a Lucky Girl.’
Graham Whittaker, Author, The Girl from Kosovo
‘…gripped me from the start …very readable, an honest account of someone ‘who’s been there’. An important work worth publication.’
Ruko Kitamaru, Author, No Ice Cream in the Land of the Cannibals
‘I read every chapter and want more. A fascinating look into your world presented with straight forward honesty, warmth and colour. Such a fresh contrast to the drab, dark or dirty shades that the media and society paints your career. I’m completely fascinated to know more about Violet, she’s so real.’
K Malone, Author, Twell
‘I was interested in comparing this with Belle de Jour’s books which I read last year. Whilst I remember almost nothing of hers, I’m pretty sure parts of your diary will stay with me. You’re not afraid to tell it as it is; warts, unpleasant odours and all!’
Camac Johnson, Author, Hemingway Quest
‘A light and humorous but overall compelling biography….an in depth and revealing picture of the life of a sex worker, at the same time demonstrating that someone working in this industry has the talent and perspicacity to write a biography of this quality. Well done…..it’s really very good.’
Janet Holt and Helen Parker, Authors, The Stranger In My Life
What readers are saying about Lucky Girl – How I Survived the Sex Industry
‘Is this woman real? She must be. You couldn’t make this story up. I feel that I know her, the way she thinks, her motivations. Can’t wait for the sequel.’….Mel H, Birmingham, England
‘A real page turner.’…..George W, Ontario, Canada
‘More, more….more please! I got to the end and still wanted to keep reading. Fantastic!’ Irene K, Sydney, Australia
‘Very Belle de Jour.’ Fred C, Port Douglas, Australia
‘Good to see the Aussie perspective. You go girl! Can I take you out for a drink sometime? I know you’ve got more stories to tell.’ Dirk B, Brighton, England
Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews
By Violet Ivy
Synopsis/Blurb
Hold onto your hat. This interview book contains some ‘out of the ordinary’ friends I have met in my travels. And I mean way out there. It’s amazing how mainstream these people look when they are on the bus travelling to work. None of them have two heads or gills. And you would never pick their fetishes. It’s only when they choose to reveal them to another that their true nature is exposed. I meet a range of people due to my involvement in the sex industry. There is no way I can be judgemental after some of the kinky stuff I have done and enjoyed. Stones and glass houses. As long as everything is safe, sane and consensual.
When I began this project I had no idea how much fun it would be to investigate sex and sexuality from other viewpoints. It’s been very educational too. Some of these people I already knew and others I sought out for their unique take on different facets of intimacy or simply what gets them off. All the names have been changed of course but their interviews, as bizarre as some of them seem, are one hundred percent real. The interviewees include a sex-change bondage and discipline Mistress, a real life slave, male clients, another high class escort, a brothel madam, a street worker, a man who loves transsexuals and carrots up his arse, a gay guy and a bisexual girl, a paraplegic and a nudist amongst others.
Read about their thoughts, feelings, attitudes and difficulties with regards to expressing their sexuality. Some just want to get laid as often as possible by any means. Others are attempting to find true and lasting happiness. The rest have specific needs that they struggle to meet. You may find a little piece of yourself in each of them.
This book could have been written a hundred times with different people being interviewed. Everyone you pass on the street has their individual preferences and past experiences. There are as many stories as there are humans in the world.
I am indebted to the interviewees as I could not have written these pages without their input. The real message of live and let live comes through the pages of this book. A lot of what is involved in their lives happens behind closed doors. A Mistress does not go into the local pub, in full leathers with a whip, looking for someone to flog. If that is your thing you have to actively seek it out.
Some of these interviews were easy to get. Others required me to search, beg, pay, travel, bribe and use any other means at my disposal to get the interviewee to accept my request. Enjoy reading their perspectives and maybe even learn a thing or two. At the very least you won’t be short of dinner party conversation for a while.
“Sex and Sexuality” is available as a paperback or E-book version;
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Author bio
Violet Ivy grew up on a small wheat and sheep farm in the outback of Western Australia. A spray of freckles across her nose, pigtails streaming down her back as she swam naked in the local creek to cool off during the endless summers.
Who could have predicted her transformation into one of the world’s most elite, international escorts? The wanton woman satisfying the needs and desires of the most affluent men and women of the globe.
Life was not always easy for Violet. Hers is a rags-to-riches story from the seedy brothels of the mining town Kalgoorlie to attending the Kentucky Derby and the Oscars on the arms of the most influential men on the face of the planet.
Violet continues to work in an industry that can either make or break it’s players. She has had to learn how to adapt and hone her expertise to climb to the top of her game. Based in Melbourne, Australia, where sex work is legal, she travels to far flung places, (if the money’s right), as either a courtesan or a fetish Mistress, fulfilling her clients’ needs and desires. Encouragement from friends and family to share her adventures led her to begin a series of books exposing the realities behind the veil of the oldest profession in the world. She introduces her readers to myriad bizarre, scary and hilarious people and situations she comes across in her travels.
Below are what some interviewees had to say to Violet…
‘She was a petite, little thing and she liked group sex. The straighter they look the more kinky they are.’ ….Jack
‘There’s a feeling of shame….How did it get to the point where I have to pay for it?’ …..Shakespeare
‘Transitional and rooming houses are for the unfortunate in life….I saw stabbings. I saw a girl set on fire….She was conscious but too drugged up to help herself. She died.’ …Rose
‘I’ve been done once already….I was curb crawling in my car and I saw this hot chick with shorts on. Half her arse was hanging out… I called her over and she asked me what I was looking for, so I asked her what she was selling and she asked what I was looking for, so I said “sex”. Before I knew it half a dozen bloody coppers jumped out of nowhere with their badges and I was done.’ …Jeff
‘I didn’t change my gender. I just changed my body to match my gender. People confuse transgenders with cross dressers, drag queens and transvestites who change their genders for many purposes, either work or they just want to think of themselves as female. The look is on the outside. The word transgender used to be used to describe someone like myself but then the sex industry got a hold of it and now it is used for any chick with a dick. I call myself a sex change.’ …Mistress C
‘I’m Your slave Mistress…. I do house chores. I like being told what to do. Ordered around as a submissive.’ …slave
‘…a lot of gangster people like Crypts and Bloods and Black Power. I grew up around gangs.’ …Sebastian
‘He was an Asian lady-boy so he was very pretty. This was in Singapore. He presented as a female. I had him in the room before I even knew.’ …Frank
‘…I have met some very nice ladies who enjoy big dicks. Their husbands enjoyed watching.’ …Ron
What readers are saying about Violet Ivy’s new book Sex and Sexuality – The Interviews
‘Thank you for including the gay perspective in your book. It’s the best reasoning behind our lifestyle choices I’ve ever heard.’ Phil B, Sydney, Australia
‘This is much more than a book of smut. It’s an enlightening look into sex and sexuality from some pretty out there viewpoints. This book needed to be written.’ Sara M, Darwin, Australia
‘Every pot has its lid as my mother used to say. As out there as your kinky wants and needs may be you will find a sexual partner to fulfil them. Thank God for the internet.’ Pat W, York, England
‘I haven’t seen another book like it. Amazing how she gets the good stuff out of her interviewees.’ Debora A, Montana, USA
‘A non-discriminative look at some pretty bizarre characters. Are these her friends? What an interesting person Violet Ivy must be.’ Hal C, Chamonix, France
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